September 2014 - Imposter Syndrome in Relationships

 

              September 2014
 
Poppy Perspectives
 
The Gifted Development Center has been changing lives for over 35 years. Many of our parents and their children have gone on to do great things and they often return to

us to share their insights.  In our Poppy Perspective feature, we will be sharing articles, blogs, and infographics from you, our audience. Do you have a perspective you'd like to share? Please contact Kimmy at [email protected].

 
For the past 30 years, Susan Van Vleet has been an agent of change facilitation for companies going through difficult
transitions such as downsizing, restructuring, mergers. Her ground-breaking workshop, "Women Moving Forward®," first presented in June 1979, has placed her at the forefront of those helping women break through the
"glass ceiling" of corporate America. Based in Lone Tree, Colorado, her company provides training and management programs to Fortune 500 companies throughout the U.S., as well as corporations world-wide.
 
 A New Twist on the Gifted Woman as Imposter
Over 25 years ago we took our two sons, Charlie and Adam, to the Gifted Development Center for testing. Dr. Linda Silverman talked with my husband, John, and me about the work we were doing with the employees of multinational corporations. Most of these employees are gifted and some are highly gifted. I spoke with Linda about the women I was seeing in our Women Moving Forward® workshop. They acted as if they were just lucky to be employed by these companies and worried that if their companies found out who they really were they would be fired and unable to find a job with another company.

I was confused by this behavior—especially since these women were highly educated and appeared to me to be gifted.

That was when Linda introduced me to the article, “The Gifted Woman as Impostor” published in Advanced Development (Bell, 1990), based on Pauline Clance’s (1985) The Imposter Phenomenon. The article describes the Imposter Syndrome that most gifted women exhibit and how it keeps them from achieving. It also describes the way this syndrome develops in women and how to unlearn these behaviors.
 
With Linda’s permission, we started handing the article out in our workshops for professional women: Women Moving Forward®. Women attend these workshops for a variety of personal and professional issues, including setting priorities, balancing career and family, dealing with pent up emotions, understanding organizational power models, challenges with bosses, career changes, self-doubt, life purpose, etc. One woman wrote: “Scared to get married or even date, though I want a husband. Chronic dumbing down to counteract intimidation of male co-workers. Compulsive desire to achieve” (VanVleet, 2007).  
 
During the first 20 years, nearly 99% of the women who read the article could relate to it and felt it described their feelings about themselves. They felt relieved because it finally put a name and a framework to what they were feeling and couldn’t articulate. Within the last 5 years, however, we are seeing a new phenomenon when we hand out “The Gifted Woman as Impostor” in our workshops: women who do not feel like imposters in their professional life but they do feel that way in their personal lives. 

Read more.

 
Great News for Homeschoolers and 2e Families!
When Dr. Lucy Miller heard that the Gifted Development Center was offering a $200 discount on comprehensive testing for homeschoolers during the entire month of October, she exclaimed, “We will do it with you!” Lucy is the founder and clinical director of STAR Center, the premier treatment center for sensory processing disorder and other developmental disorders. To our extreme delight, they have extended an offer of $200 off
all evaluations this fall. 

STAR Center is homeschooler-friendly. Bobbie Gilman and Linda Silverman were enthralled with the 13,000 square foot sensory playground Lucy had designed. We discovered that between September 5th  and November 21st, STAR Center offers Open Playground Time for homeschoolers and current and previous STAR clients every Thursday from noon to 3:00 PM. Guests need to sign a waiver of responsibility upon arrival and all children must be accompanied by adults.

 
5420 S. Quebec St. #103
Greenwood Village, CO 80111 
www.spdstar.org
 
Call 303-221-7827

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GDC's Store on our NEW Website
 
We are thrilled to announce that our long-awaited new website is finally launched!  THANK YOU to all our supporters who donated the last two years to help make this website a reality.
 
Our store is a place to find the valuable resources to help you learn more about giftedness, visual-spatial learners, asynchrony, overexciteabilities and more.
Click here to see what is available!
 
FEATURED THIS MONTH!
   
Linda Powers Leviton
                                                     
Peace Within, Peace Between speaks to individuals of all ages who want to live fuller, more loving and satisfying lives, as well as to coaches and therapists who wish to be more effective in their professional efforts. Leviton's calm and straightforward prose offers easy-to-apply concrete skills using anecdotes, illustrations, stories, metaphors, bullet-point lists, and activity worksheets to introduce the theories and tools of Virginia Satir, pioneer of family therapy.
 
This positive and practical approach to communication and connection engages and motivates readers injecting hope into even the most difficult interactions. These ideas would be an asset in any relationship or setting.Peace Within, Peace Between: Your Relationship Toolkit is a positive, entertaining, useful and effective guide to finding the love we all want to feel: for ourselves, our partners, our children, our parents, and the world.
 
 
 
Gifted Development Center 
A Service of the Institute for the Study 
of Advanced Development 
 
8120 Sheridan Blvd., Suite C-111, 
Westminster, CO 80003-6146 
 
1-888-GIFTED1 (Continental US only) 
303-837-8378
Fax: 303-831-7465
 
Fall Discounts on Comprehensive Assessments
 
Sunday, September 7, is Grandparents’ Day.  To honor the important role of grandparents, throughout the month of September, the Gifted Development Center will offer a $200 discount on comprehensive assessment to all grandparents who wish to support their grandchildren’s giftedness. 
Homeschoolers Discount
In the past, we have always offered a $200 discount to homeschoolers for comprehensive assessment throughout the month of September. This year, because we are honoring Grandparents' Day in September, we are moving our homeschoolers discount to October. 
 
Call 303-837-8378 for more information on any of these discounts.
 
 
Advanced Development Journal
 
Article ImageIn 1989, we created Advanced Development,the only journal on adult giftedness, from our perspective that giftedness in adults is integrity and empathy, rather than eminence.
 
Our journal gave birth to the field of counseling gifted adults. It has been eye-opening and comforting to our readers.
 
Lee Ann Bell’s article on “Gifted Women as Impostors” from Volume 2 is the basis of the above article in this newsletter, which Susan VanVleet has used for 25 years. Volume 2 is available as an e-journal.
 
Eminence,
Brilliance or a 
Way of Being?
 
A Parent Education event featuring Dr. Linda Silverman and Mackintosh Academy Head of School, J.J. Morrow
 
Wednesday, Sept. 10
6:00 - 6:30pm Reception/Book Signing
6:30 - 8:30pm Presentation
 
Mackintosh Academy
6717 South Boulder Road
Boulder, CO 80304

RSVP: [email protected]
$10 to attend, seating is limited